So instead of making it an issue, let him know how amazing he is that he makes the time to see you. When he does text or call and says something that feeds your need to connect heart-to-heart, rather than discussing the minutia of life, then let him know how good that felt. Just like a puppy, giving positive feedback for ‘good behavior,’ works wonders. This is also how we train our children to do what we want.
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One of the primary reasons I focus on helping women understand men is so they can stop stressing about much of what can’t be changed. Women are much better at adapting than men are, unless it has to do with work or survival. If you complain about this, you will only push him away. So, as Bob Newhart advises, “Stop it!†The source of your distress is that you want it to be the way YOU want it, instead of seeing that this is the way it is, and will be for a while. As long as he keeps showing up, and is loving and enjoyable when you get together, then this is good.
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Ask this question: Is this a man you would want as the father of your children? This question takes the emotion out of it and causes us to be very smart about what is the best choice. Do a Ben Franklin: On a piece of paper, draw a vertical line down the middle. On the left side write all the things about him that make you happy. On the right side, write all the things that make you unhappy. With each item, preferably in a light meditation, ask how each one makes you feel. Write it down. You will know if this is what you really want. Ask yourself: If this is the way it will be the whole time I am with this man, do I really want this relationship? You only know how it is now and you don’t know if it is going to change. Something to consider seriously. Do the Rocking Chair Test: Imagine sitting on your front porch in your rocking chair. You’re very old, at the end of your life. Think about how you would feel if you stayed with this man then think about how you feel if you decided to leave. It’s amazing how helpful it is to separate ourselves from it through time to get a clearer sense of what to do. Get my three free ebooks about men and discover if he’s a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince or all three.
Should You Stay Or Should You Go?
When you’re struggling with whether or not you should continue to date someone, here are some tests you can do on your situation so you can more effectively step away from your feelings and tap in to your inner wisdom. You already know the answers but our emotions, shoulds, other’s expectations, time invested, etc. can color our ability to know what’s best for us.
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Remember the last Secret in Men Made Easy: “A man wants to be with a woman who makes him feel like a man.†Every time you let him know how he is ‘shining’ for you, he falls more and more in love. A man sticks around when his woman makes him feel great about being a man. The more you do this, the more secure you will be. And using the Text the Romance Back, will, I’m pretty certain, put some spark in your times apart. I hope that helps ease your mind…